title: Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking
author: Susan Cain /Twitter
published: January 29, 2013
first line: Montgomery, Alabama.
rated: 4 1/2 out of 5 stars
At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over working in teams. It is to introverts—Rosa Parks, Chopin, Dr. Seuss, Steve Wozniak—that we owe many of the great contributions to society.
In Quiet, Susan Cain argues that we dramatically undervalue introverts and shows how much we lose in doing so. She charts the rise of the Extrovert Ideal throughout the twentieth century and explores how deeply it has come to permeate our culture. She also introduces us to successful introverts—from a witty, high-octane public speaker who recharges in solitude after his talks, to a record-breaking salesman who quietly taps into the power of questions. Passionately argued, superbly researched, and filled with indelible stories of real people, Quiet has the power to permanently change how we see introverts and, equally important, how they see themselves.
It took me a while to get this review up because I truly enjoyed this book and I wanted to write an articulated post without rambling. This is the kind of read that begs to be discussed and I definitely could go on and on about it.
Being a natural born introvert, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking grabbed my attention straight away. Author Susan Cain covers intro and extroversion in great detail here and as I read I could relate time and again to what she was saying.
The author highlights famous introverts such as Rosa Parks and Eleanor Roosevelt and shares how their quiet strength helped changed the course of history. This quote below sums it up and the author really gets it when saying that “introverts and extroverts are differently social”.
Probably the most common- and damaging-misunderstanding about personality type is that introverts are antisocial and extroverts are prosocial. But as we’ve seen, neither formulation is correct; introverts and extroverts are differently social.
p.240, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain
I have always been quiet, it is just my way. “You are too quiet Naida” and “You need to come out of your shell” and other comments like those have been tossed my way all my life. In high school one of the popular girls once told me “You are too pretty to be so quiet”. I never forgot that because I wondered why she thought attractiveness with chattiness went together.
Susan Cain points out that there is a kind of guilt associated with introverted people, because they are made to feel that there is something inherently wrong with being quiet. It is very true, when we live in a world that pushes being outgoing and where the loudest take center stage, being introverted can be a daily challenge; many times introverts are overlooked.
There’s zero correlation between being the best talker and having the best ideas.-Susan Cain
This was an interesting read as Cain gives various different examples, ranging from age groups and different cultures to people at work and couples. She discusses introverted children and how extroverted parents interact with them and vice versa.
A book like this can make you think about the different relationships in your life in regards to who is introverted and who is extroverted.
As far as growing up in a Hispanic family like I have, everyone is expected to be loud and lively, and spicy and for the most part, they are. Stereotypical Latina Sofía Vergara right? Don’t get me wrong, I do enjoy socializing, but to an extent. Family events and gatherings can be exhausting, not physically but mentally because of all the chatter. After reading Quiet, I now wonder which of my family members are actually introverts pretending to be extroverts because of social expectations.
This book also made me think about introverts and extroverts in regards to how they interact on social media. Social media almost gets many of us to seem extroverted doesn’t it? All that interaction and chatting online, but what if we were all face to face? How different would these interactions be?
As I read Quiet, I really felt a kind of validation. It was very nice. I enjoyed how the author brings the strengths of introverts to light without pitting them against extroverts. It is more of a yin and yang thing.
What do you consider yourself to be, introverted or extroverted?
I highly recommend Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking, for the introverts of the world especially.
This is a clip of Susan Cain speaking. You can find more on YouTube and the author is on Twitter as well:
Author bio (quoted from the authors website ):
Her record-smashing TED talk has been viewed over 12 million times, and was named by Bill Gates one of his all-time favorite talks. Cain has also spoken at Microsoft, Google, the U.S. Treasury, the S.E.C., Harvard, Yale, West Point and the US Naval Academy. She received Harvard Law School’s Celebration Award for Thought Leadership, the Toastmasters International Golden Gavel Award for Communication and Leadership, and was named one of the world’s top 50 Leadership and Management Experts by Inc. Magazine. She is an honors graduate of Princeton and Harvard Law School. In 2014, Cain partnered with office design company Steelcase to create Susan Cain Quiet Spaces, with a range of architecture, furniture, materials and technology to empower introverts at work. She lives in the Hudson River Valley with her husband and two sons.
Disclaimer: This review is my honest opinion. I did not receive any kind of compensation for reading and reviewing this book. I am under no obligation to write a positive review. I purchased my copy of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain.